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Choose love.
February 13, 2013

Featured Affirmation:

Affirmation: Love is my highest priority.


“I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough…” -Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” -Elbert Hubbard

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” -Mother Teresa

5 Ways to Choose Love

On February 14th, take a break. Lay it all down. Open your hands, show your palms and drop:
  • The guilt
  • The expectations
  • The wanting
  • The stubbornness
  • The visualizations and even the affirmations
On February 14th, Valentine’s Day, just be. Just be who you are and allow others to be who they are. No trying, no striving, just being.

Love is an undercurrent. It is here all of the time. We happen to not see it because we’ve layered all sorts of gunk on top of it. And some of that gunk is even in the name of being spiritual or trying to manifest something better. The more we reject the way things are, the way we are, the way others are and the way life is, the deeper love gets buried.

On February 14th, sift through and reclaim love. Here’s how:
  1. Forgive yourself and your loved ones, even if it is just for today. Take a break from the grudge. If it pops into your mind, say a short blessing and distract yourself.

  2. If you feel your heart closing, shut your eyes and breathe. It only takes ninety seconds for emotions to pass through.

  3. Smile a big wide grin for no reason whatsoever, especially if you’re not getting your way at the moment.

  4. Move your body. Take a walk. Chase the dog. Dance in the shower. This helps everything flow better.

  5. Live with resilience.

I am on a new quest. I’ve decided to let the myth go, and I can’t keep this to myself anymore. There is a widespread misconception in our culture that there is a magic formula to life. If you could just master this formula, all, and I mean all, your problems would be solved. The issue is that this ideal continually sets people up for failure. We are always looking to the future for some special day when we can finally get out of life’s challenges. Until that day, we are never enough, never worthy, never healed. There is always work to be done. This belief has buried love the deepest.

The Truth (and I mean with a capital ‘T’) is that you are already enough. There is no need to wait for the future. Life is going to have bumps, always. Adopting an attitude of resilience is a choice to welcome yourself and your life as it is right now, today. Even thought there are going to be challenges, life is still wonderfully amazing.

Resilience is a way of life, a continual letting go of what was and embracing what is. It is a decision to focus on what is in your control and to make the best out of any situation. It is the deep belief that even though you don’t have the perfect health, wealth or romance, you are whole, healed and spiritually complete.

In honor of resilience, I have developed a new website titled Chronic Resilience. It is a place for me to connect with you in a personal and honest way about life as it is. The focus of the site is about finding power in the powerlessness of illness. Living every day with resilience when life isn’t living up to expectations. I hope you’ll join me to chat, laugh and maybe even cry a bit. The topics covered include: Here’s a sample of what you’ll find: Please spread the word. We all know someone who’s coping with illness, and I would love to meet them. I’m ready to take the pressure off and let love flow in gushing streams. Without any prerequisites.

And if you want to add something sweet to that, I’ve whipped up a batch of vegan chocolate peanut butter cups; you can get the recipe at my new site too.

Danea xoxo

Journal Exercise

Who or what do you need to open your heart to?

2013 Excitement

From day one of my life, I have been called to be an owner of challenging health. It has tested my resolve, patience and faith several times. My health became the greatest teacher I never asked for.

This summer, Chronic Resilience will be published by Conari Press. In this book, I offer you everything I've got about becoming an owner of your own diagnosis. You'll read my triumphs, embarrassments and insights about navigating illness.

We have just finished editing, and I am extremely proud of what we've put together. I am counting down the days until I get to share it with you!

More details to come as we get closer...stay tuned!

Looking for a presenter?

I am in the process of booking speaking engagements for 2013. If you have a group that needs a speaker, you can learn more about my Chronic Resilience Seminars and Keynotes as well as read testimonials at my website:


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